Saturday, August 11, 2012

My Unusual Hobby

I spent close to two hours browsing through our local Hastings tonight. I was alone in a book store with no time limit which equals lovely in my world. As I have discussed in earlier blogs this is my year of becoming a "real" reader. So in part, my agenda was hunting down a new book for fun reading, and also hunting for bargain books to keep in my office at work. (Found both! Will report in later about how they turned out.) While I was there I made my usual trek to the cookbook aisle. I think I spent the bulk of my time scanning titles and browsing for a bargain cookbook.

A few years ago I decided I needed a hobby. Not sure why exactly, but it seemed like something I was missing. I tried crafty things- but it always felt like pressure to get something produced. I tried exercise- miserable fail. I tried collecting things- turns out I hate having too much stuff, so that was no good either. But in the course of trial and error, I discovered one thing I love to do: read cookbooks. Admittedly, this is not very "productive", but all the same I was relieved to at least identify a hobby. I have decided my love of skimming through volumes of Southern Living and Gooseberry Patch is the nurturing of my family and fond memories of my own childhood. My mom was (and still is) a wonderful homemaker. She loved to open our home to friends and folks visiting our church and cook them a meal. She would set a lovely table and prepare a full course meal regularly. There is a sweet and warm connection for me as I read recipes. I think of how I might use them- a dinner party, holiday meals with family, when having a new couple from church over for dinner or more commonly, for our family dinner night. Reading cookbooks inspires my creative side and helps me get out of the dinner rut it's true, but my real joy is imagining serving meals that keep us all at the table a little longer. Where the kids can grow up with their own "warm and fuzzies" of mom's cooking and mealtimes together.



So, I was delighted to find a Taste of Home hardback full color cookbook called Dinner on a Dime for $3.49. And for the rest of the evening, as my chores for today are done, I shall be curled up with my new cookbook and a few Milano's and a glass of milk.



Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Judge Not

So in the wake of the Chik-Fil-A controversy (that I will not touch in this blog or any other social media outlet) I have been pondering the subject of judging. I used to be quite judgemental in my younger years, and now I attempt to be honest and authentic without passing judgement.  I do not succeed of course, because inside all of us is the temptation to rank ourselves compared to others and decide who is "better" or "righter" (I know it's not a word but I like it, don't judge me!) We do it in marriage, friendships, work and church relationships. We do it with politics, Hollywood celebrities, homeless people and addicts. It matters not whether I know a person deeply or saw them in a TV ad, I am just as able to judge if I so choose. It's a temptation Jesus addresses in scripture with a very simple statement: Judge not, lest ye be judged. (Apparently I memorized that verse from the King James Version, which is weird because I never used the KJV) Bottom line: stop judging people! But it's so hard isn't it? It's so easy to look at someone else's mistakes, or reactions and form opinions about what they are like, why they are wrong, what they ought to do differently. Perhaps the most amusing form is those who judge the "judgers".

"I can't believe the way they are so judgemental of _______" (homeless, gays, addicts, republicans, democrats, Muslims...) "I would never act that way!" (pot, meet kettle)

What God has taught me in my years of humbling and growing in this area, is my judgement of others is usually a reflection of my lack of understanding about my own sin and need for grace. There is not a sin another person commits that when you boil it down I have not committed against God in some form. I may have never robbed a bank, but I have definitely wanted instant gratification. I may have never abused my children, but I have allowed myself to hurt others with my anger. It took me years and years of God revealing the wickedness in my heart to be able to understand that I needed grace as much as any other sinner. I find that now that I am really aware of how much I needed saving, I am so much more empathetic with others who struggle against sin and brokenness. It's hard to judge others when I see us as being in the same boat. It was during these humbling years that I stumbled upon my favorite quote about my identity: I am just a beggar, leading other beggars to the Bread of Life. -Charles Spurgeon

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Motherhood Mixed

Got up this morning to the site of one very excited girl, in her new Justice top, asking to "please wear my hair down today" looking every bit as grown up as she's feeling. First day of school is always mixed for me. I love, love, love all the new school supplies and new sneakers and excitement of possibilities. I always ache a little at seeing one more year begin and my kids all growing up and away before my eyes. Yet, I feel settled that it is good and every season of motherhood brings a new joy. I have not always felt this way however.

 I remember gripping my babies tightly, not wanting to see them grow up, yet wishing for the day when we would be a "diaper free" home. I remember how I loved singing them night-night songs and tucking them in, while simultaneously longing for the day I could hug them good night from the place I had plopped down on the couch while they put themselves to bed. There are countless tasks I loved and dreaded all at the same time. I look back and think it is funny that I spent so much time in two places in my mind: enjoying the present while wishing it away for an easier future.

Over the years I have been reminded over and over, how God calls us, urges us, commands us and reminds us to live in the present. Why is it so hard to be where we are? I'm not sure I can answer for any woman other than myself, but I am seeing more clearly that I live in the future to control and to escape. I live in the past to grieve and escape. But, contentment does not exist in any place but the present. To fully embrace life, I have to train my mind to be where I am, fully present for every sorrow and joy. It is here, in this moment where God meets me and gives me grace. Where He provides insight or wisdom or peace. Where I can experience His presence.

So today on August 7, 2012 I am living at 8:43 aware that my house is quiet. Aware that my sweet girl is still little enough to snuggle with her mama, but big enough to get herself dressed. Aware that all my children are good gifts from God, and I am undeservedly blessed to be their mom. 

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Titus 2 Four U- Rise Early

When you give birth to your first baby, you come home from the hospital on a whole new schedule: sleeping and feeding are what a typical day revolves around and if you manage to shower it's a bonus. For about six to eight weeks depending on your little bundle of joy, this becomes normal life. You don't need an alarm clock because the baby sets your wake up time. This works well with baby number one. As more children make their appearance, or as baby one grows, in order to function well as mama, there comes a time when the alarm clock needs to re-emerge. This lesson took me a long time to learn. I used my boys as alarm clocks forever, because they were such early risers. The main problem with this method is we were both waking up at the same time, but they responded to the arrival of morning with enthusiasm and energy. Mom responded with a groan. (Have I mentioned I am decidedly not a morning person?)

One day, and I think my kids were 9, 7 and 2 at this point, I was reading Proverbs 31 in part admiration, part irritation (yeah, but she had servants!) when it hit me that this woman was up before the rest of her family. "She rises while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls." (Proverbs 31:15) She was up and preparing for her family, which in those times revolved a lot around food. (I live in the South, and that still holds true to a large degree!) I decided that I would try as an experiment setting my alarm for 15 minutes before my earliest riser, Emma, awoke on a normal day. So, alarm set for 6 am and I began to groan my way out of bed to the coffee pot and begin my day as the earliest riser. At first it was hard, because I was just so accustomed to hitting snooze and sleeping in till I had to get up. But after a week or so, I began to see the pay off. You can accomplish so much more in 15 minutes without children around than you can in 45 minutes with them! And in reality that 15 minutes of sleep wasn't really giving me that much more rest.

Here's what I discovered could be accomplished in 15 minutes of peace and quiet: fully awake mama to greet waking children, coffee already made and one cup consumed, five minutes praying for my day, aware of what the day has in store because of checking my day planner including prep for dinner, one load of laundry started and lunches packed for school. As they got older and I began working more, I exchanged "lunches packed" for "dishwasher unloaded" and added Jesus Calling in with my prayer time. The double bonus was with all that done, I could actually visit with my kids while they ate breakfast instead of scurrying around trying to multi-task. What could you do in 15 minutes of quiet that would make your day run smoother?

As I have been in this system for several years now, I'll tell you I do not rise early on weekends if I can help it because I do really love sleeping in. So on Saturdays currently I sleep till I'm ready to get up, unless we have a commitment. This helps me care for myself and catch up on sleep I may have missed during the week. Obviously, this is a system you need to wait to use until babies are a bit older and sleeping through the night mainly. For my family, the blessing of mom rising earlier than the rest to begin our day has been huge. I would love to hear what you accomplish in your 15 minutes and what blessings you notice for yourself or kids by trying this idea!